g:Sayang, u love me x?
b:Darling, of coz la ily. Teehee
g:Imy la.
b:Imy 2 huuu
g:Syg?
b:Hmm?
g:jom kawin (smiley shy)
b:ok! jom! ily!heee (smiley =p)
g: nk ask my ummi and walid first teehee
b: ok, i nak ask my parents too heee
g: goodluck with that sayang. psst. i want arab style k!hee
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| vandalism 101 |
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| Aww,how sweet. saya bila lagi? hee |
The text messages has strictly nothing to do with me. Believe me, I never went that far. teehee
But then again….
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I had this little talk with my walid and ummi the other night. The boys were all asleep, ummi was sewing clothes and walid was waiting for football. We chatted over cups of tea. Oh, our family, we adore tea, there could be bombs flying from the sky, and we’d still have our tea. We once ditched it for coffee, Tenom coffee, but we ran out of stock already.I told ummi that come what may, I’m going to save RM2k next semester from my RM4k allowance. No more shopping.
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| damn. |
“Of course you have to save”, she said. Her eyes were still on the clothes. Walid was reading newspaper. The Star, you’d never finish reading them, walid said.
“For marriage, right Ummi?” I said, careful not to spill the tea.
As soon as I said that she lifted her head from the clothes and gave me the radioactive look. I hadn’t meant it as a joke; I was in fact, very serious.
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The other day I was hanging out with my classmates Nadia and Kak Maizatun. We talked about savings. And marriage. Suddenly it occurred to me one thing: that I have to save for my marriage.
A wedding is going to be costly, especially for me. I’m the only daughter. I’m also the first daughter, in addition to that, with no elder siblings to help support me or sponsor teehee for my wedding. Talking about “Of Bunga Telor and Bally Shoes”. I will need at least RM10k.
Then there was this talk about a friend getting married Insha’Allah, next year. She’s 21 by the way. With a steady candidate (husband-to-be). Her parents gave her the green light.
Now it only comes down to the money, but she’s saving.
She’s still in college.
Why NOT?
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I once read in Milenia Islam, a Muslim magazine. A Muslim convert named Sulaiman Dufford was one of the columnists. He said that from the studies in the States, those who get married during their college years tend to perform better in their studies.
Well. I tried telling that to my mother. It wasn’t even close. She said it was ridiculous.
“What will happen if they get pregnant?” she bombarded me with the one-million dollar question.
Ummi, people get pregnant in or out of wedlock. At least there will be fewer problems when you’re legally wed, I thought, but kept quiet.
But it’s a great idea, isn’t it? Helps in reducing maksiat. It will be halal to go dating. And holding hands. You can ride motorbike together—and hug your hubby tight, like you’re riding on a roller coaster or something (I always want to do that.) You don’t have to curb your so-called lust anymore. And you have someone to take care of you. I told you it’s an awesome idea, did I?
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Dear Schu, that isn’t what marriage is all about. It’s more than that. It’s about commitment and whatnot. And responsibilities! You know that once you’re married, your husband will be responsible for you, no?
and miss schuhada attarmizi cant even take care of a cat!
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| i'm ALLERGIC to cats u silly |
Well. Well. Well. It’s not like I’m going to get married during my degree year or whatever. I mean, for one thing, unlike the friend I mentioned just now, I don’t even have someone I can call “husband material”.
And looking back, I’m not even a good cook. I’m lazy at washing clothes. I just discovered something call “locker-cleaning” a year ago. Now how am I supposed to manage a man babe? I can picture having a man like me. And what our house would be like!
And heck, I have crush to almost half the boys I met. Ha-ha.
I’m not having early marriage. At least not during college life.
“What about getting married right after I graduate?”
Ummi stopped again, turning to walid.
“What do you think, sayang?” I envy my parents, they’re getting more romantic each day.
“Only,” walid said, “If you marry a Datuk.”
I turned back to the novel Sutinah, by A Samad Ismail, which I was reading. Well. Its a brilliant idea aint it, I thought for a second.
There was this pregnant pause. Suddenly walid complained.
“You don’t even make good tea. Call Uncle to get Tenom coffee for us.”
Hey. Maybe I should marry a Sabahan. A guy from Tenom, better still. That way we’ll have the coffee you love every day, I thought.
Psst: I cant really recall where, but I read somewhere that the Egyptians, they have some kind of a marriage where people, young people wed at our age (my age), so that they can do what they want with their bf/gf, the halal way.you know. Go dating. Hold hands. Blah blah. But they won’t “consummate” to that marriage. Ok. Straight to the point. They won’t have sex. They just do what our typical bf/gf couple do. Well. What if they broke up? Marriage is so sacred it aint a toy, sweetheart.
Psst 2: I nak marry orang putih lah! Nak anak comel2 teehee
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g:syg!
b:ling! so how?
g: ummi tak kasi laa huhu
b: alaaaa
g: ummi tu, let alone getting married, nak mintak iPhone 4 pun she said no.
b: :-(..mama i let me to, she can't wait to be a grandma
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